#170: Reframing Body Image: Embracing Self-Acceptance and Positivity

Ever wondered how to break free from the grip of unrealistic beauty standards and embrace a healthier perception of your own body? This episode takes you on a profound journey to reframe body image. 

In this episode,  we delve into the significant role that parents play in modeling body positivity for their children, and how early awareness can set a solid foundation for lifelong self-acceptance.

We'll explore how societal standards of beauty have evolved over time and the detrimental effects they've had, particularly on women. We highlight how pervasive negative self-perceptions can be. By sharing real-life stories, we emphasize the importance of parents instilling confidence and acceptance in their children, showing how even young kids can be impacted by body image issues. The aim is to create a supportive environment where everyone feels valued and accepted just as they are.

Finally, we confront the damaging effects of negative self-talk and the transformative power of reframing our thoughts. We discuss practical strategies like positive affirmations and visual reminders that can help improve self-esteem. By cherishing our bodies and the moments we share with our loved ones, we can cultivate true happiness that comes from within and foster a community that celebrates our unique selves. 

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Chapters

• 0:00 Reframing Body Image Perspective
• 13:04 Body Image and Parental Influence
• 18:59 Self-Acceptance and Positive Body Image
• 22:50 Reframing Body Image for Happiness
• 29:39 Reframing Body Image for Positivity

Transcript

#170: Reframing Body Image: Loving Your Body Inside and Out

Hello, hello, and welcome back to the ITZINU. So today we are talking about body image and how you view your body. This is something I'm really, really passionate about. And my goal today is to help you reframe how you are thinking about your body. So, uh, it is something that I know, uh, women and men have, uh, both had troubles with, uh, you know, through For years and for years, it is something that, you know, but with the increasing amount of social media, increasing amount of people being photoshopped and all of those other things, it's creating this really, uh, not realistic vision in our head.

And what my mission is, is my mission is for more people to understand, uh, their bodies and to feel better about their bodies so they can be passing that onto your kids. We don't realize how much stuff our kids are absorbing. They are absorbing stuff. all around us without us realizing, you know, because we are doing the same.

And, but if we can be the one to make the change, we can be the one to advocate for them to help them see that their bodies are perfect, how they are, and that they don't need to be changed. And, you know, like, it's also looking at how, how critical you are of your body. And, you know, you wouldn't, you wouldn't want your child speaking like that.

See you doing that. And they're going to be doing, they'll end up being doing the same thing. So I really want to speak today about reframing how we think about our bodies and trying to try to look at it in a little bit of a different light. A few years ago, we, I had done some interviews with some people and I'd ask them about their body.

I actually have a program that talks about body image and this. Talk about this exact stuff, reframing how we think about your body. And I've interviewed some of these women for this. So I'm going to play you what they, what they said about their bodies. So when I ask you how you see your body, what's the first thing that comes to your mind?

Broken, flabby, but mummy. Not perfect. I'm thankful for it. I'm thankful that it's healthy. I don't like it. It's getting older, so it's a constant battle to keep it fit and strong. Oh, I was going to say frumpy. It's always the first thing that comes to mind. Yeah, frumpy. Oh. Um. Yes, that's the first thing that comes to my mind.

I'm trying to think of something positive again. Um, it's been a process to learn to love my body, but it's something that I'm working on every day. Need to lose weight? Um, I suppose just like, body image? Like I, you know what I mean? Like it's, I'm always thinking about, You know, I'm too this, I'm not enough this, I'm too white.

Things like that. Weak. Why do you think that? Because I've done it big muscles. Big muscles. I don't have, I don't have enough endurance. I, I'm a wuss and I give up too easily. I can't push myself hard enough. Ever. So I'm really grateful that I could get some of those, you know, opinions from, uh, people at the time.

This was done quite a few years ago and, uh, so it, um, you know, but what did you hear from them? Um, you know, we heard that we weren't, that it wasn't good, that their bodies weren't good enough, uh, you know, that they were weak, that it wasn't perfect, you know, that, uh, there was some that were saying that they were learning to love it, which is great.

Uh, some was appreciative of their body, but most, uh, people had something negative to say. So I really want to think when, what is the first thing, when you think about your body, what is the first thing That comes to mind when I ask you what you think of your body, don't overthink it. Don't try to think I should say this.

What is that first thing that comes to your mind? If you've said something negative, let's, you know, let's look at changing that. Let's look at changing that. When you ask me what I think about my body, I think I'm strong. I don't think I'm strong. I know I'm strong. That's the first thing that comes to my head.

I, I just think about strong is something strong is something I value. And I, I just see my body as strong and I'm not only strong physically, but I know that I'm really strong mentally. So that is something, uh, that I'm proud of. Uh, and it's something that I know my body's really capable. So I don't doubt it.

I know. I know I can really do anything I set my mind to, and I'm really, really proud that, that my body can do that. That's my first thoughts on my body. Now, when we are looking back on, when we're looking back at, you know, can you, if we think, can you ever think of a time where you felt good about your body, where you had something positive to say, you know, when, when did things, start changing.

So is that something that you can remember? So for me, I was quite fortunate to grow up in a household where diets didn't really exist. So it was never really spoken about my, uh, you know, I, I train a lot of women who have, you know, their, their parents spent years dieting, uh, you know, it, it was, it was not an easy thing to do.

When I first had training, it was such a, it's such a shock because I didn't grow up like that. So it was such a shock that people from like eight or nine were, were, were being told to diet, you know, because that's what they'd been told from, from their parents, you know, all that they'd watched, you know, so, so some people it's ingrained in you.

So, so what I want you to start doing is it's not to blame yourself. It's to, it's to just understand this is where things, this is where things were at. So, you know, uh, yeah, so it was quite a shock for me. So I was fortunate enough to, um, We didn't really talk about any of those things in my, in my house, in my, in my house growing up.

Uh, I'm the middle child. I have a, I have two brothers. So I only remember once when my mom was, um, my mom was doing a, um, she, she obviously wanted to lose some weight, but she's still, she's still kind of at balance. She still wanted to have a wine. So she made sure that she would, you know, on the day that on the, on the weekend, she would still, she would cut out the fruit so she could have a glass of wine or that's, that's all I kind of remember.

And we joke about that now, but, um, but that's all I remember. So there was no real, there was no. Talk about dieting or restricting or, or any of those things. The only other time growing up that I had that there was like a restriction or change on food, but it wasn't about weight. It was, my dad had cancer.

And when my, uh, when my dad had discovered that he had cancer, the, uh, he had, it was actually discovered by my dad was working for, he was putting, my dad used to put in alarms and stuff and he was working for a security. Uh, he was working for himself but in a naturopath and it was actually the naturopath that detected it and so he put dad on a specific diet, uh, but again, it wasn't the diet wasn't about losing weight.

The diet was about, um, about making his body feel better, you know, it was about making his body feel better. And, um, you know, so that's, that's the only other time that I remember growing up anything like that, I do have a funny story about that. So this time in our life, I think I must've been about. 16 or 17 and, um, I remember, um, whatever the food that we had to eat, we still, we laugh about now as adults, whatever the thing we had to eat, it always had kidney beans on it.

It was always beans. Beans were with everything. Kidney beans. And my mom was making the recipes that she was sent beans. And this one day I remember saying to my friend, We're having pizza tonight for dinner, but thank God there's not going to be any beans. There can't be any beans on a pizza. Like that would be crazy.

And the pizza came out and it had kidney beans on it. And I was like, no. So that's what I, that's what I remember from that. I do remember at point, uh, probably, uh, a certain age, I do remember, uh, thinking that my tummy was full. And I remember doing sit ups every night and I did sit ups every night, uh, at home in the bedroom alone.

So I do remember doing that and I ended up with a full six pack. Uh, I was doing, you know, sit ups and, but, um, but that's the only other time, that's the only other thing that I really remember body image wise growing up. So I was quite, fortunate in that way, which I feel I've, because, because there wasn't a lot of that stuff around, I did grow up with quite a level head about that.

I haven't spent years dieting. I didn't, I didn't really, uh, you know, it, it wasn't something that was in my, Surroundings. So, so that's my, that's, that's kind of my, uh, upbringing. Um, you know, but I know, I know everyone's different and I've met so many women that it's just ingrained in them. They don't, they don't know any different and it's not your fault, but you know, if we're going to look at changing how, how we view our body or how we view ourselves, we're going to We need to look back and look at where it started.

So where, where did things start from? You know, we have, we have family members that make, they might make little jokes. They might have little comments to say about how we look, or if we're a little bit podgy, that they might make those little comments. We have those things. We might have somebody that says something to you.

And you know, that one, thing that somebody says can be something that you carry with your life. And I've definitely had that happen to me. So I, um, I'm always hold my weight in my legs. I'm always bigger in my lower half. If I'm buying jeans, I, I struggled to find, uh, you know, I used to always struggle to find jeans to fit me because my thighs were bigger than my waist.

Uh, and I remember as, I remember in high school, someone saying, your legs are like tree trunks. Now my legs are really strong. They're strong and they're muscly. Uh, so that's, that's just, that's just how they are. But when I heard this as a youngster, I then took that, that person's opinion of my legs. on board.

So I put that on board. And then I always was like, I don't like my legs. They're tree trunks, you know, and, and kept thinking about this. And it wasn't until I was a bit older that I, um, you know, I remember being like, this is the shape I am. This is the shape I am. And, you know, I'm, I, you know, I can't, there's, there's things about our body.

That we physically can't change. There's things that are in your genetics. There's things that in your genetics about height. So we never come to ourselves and say, I wish I, you know, like, I wish, you know, I wish I had a different, or maybe you do, but you know, height is something that we just know that we can't.

Uh, we can't change, right? It's just, uh, you know, you can obviously add heels on or you know, but you're just the height you are is, is the height you are. The color of your eyes are the color of your eyes. They just they just are who we are. So some people, genetically, we might hold our weight differently.

We might uh, we might tend to, you know, it depends what type of body shape we are. And they're those things that just are where they are. You know, we don't, we don't want different bones because it's just who you are and we accept all that. So why can't we start accepting just how your body is? And what I would like everybody to do is to start looking at accepting and instead of focusing on being a certain size or looking a certain way, let's start looking at how we feel and how our body feels.

Because I also believe that That you know yourself better than anyone and you're looking at, you know, when, if you are feeling like, if we're going to really get down to the nitty gritty of it, if you feel like you have, you're maybe not a shape, you may be like holding extra weight or those things, you know, deep down there is enough.

information out there and I guarantee you, you, you've listened to it. You've learned it. You know, if you're, if you're my age, if you're a bit older, a bit younger, any of those things, I guarantee you've had enough of it around because it's all around that you actually know what you're doing. You know, what works for your body and you know what doesn't.

And I really want you to start, uh, Focusing on how you feel and start trusting yourself. So really, really start trusting yourself. And, but we will, but as I was trying to, we were trying to talk about before, we should go back and think about where, when things changed, what made things change, when did things start changing or, you know, and sometimes it's happened so often that we didn't, we didn't realize that we didn't realize it.

And the first step into moving forward is to accepting it and accepting that acceptance. Accepting that maybe that's what happened and knowing that that's not your story and we don't need to take that story forward anymore That was someone's opinion. It was someone's opinion And maybe that's something that they feel, you know, and we look at different cultures, different cultures, value, different sizes, you know, uh, you know, how many cultures see that when, if you are bigger, that that actually means you're wealthy.

That means that you've had, you know, looking back at the age that you've had food, you know, To you've had food to eat where being, you know, thin and then looking through the looking through the years, you know, like, uh, you know, the nineties was that very thin up and down look where that was the thing, the value, then, you know, then they're increasing it to having a booty and having, you know, other things done.

So it's changed through the years, but I, what I want you to value is value. How you feel, and no one can take that away from you, but you can work on it to make sure that you feel good about yourself and feel good about your body. And that's what we're going to try to start, to heal this and to make a journey in moving forward.

The thing that makes me feel the saddest and I can't remember whether I've said it, whether I said it before, the thing that really made the big like aha moment in my head was when I was doing, I was doing, uh, like a challenge, uh, you know, like a fitness challenge and, and for everything, I just want to help people like revamp how they feel, you know, get up, feel a bit more motivated, get moving.

You know, and I feel better about themselves. I don't want it to be something where we start beating up on how we feel. And every lady that we had, I was, we had like a one on one with everyone before we started so I could help them align their goals, make sure they, you know, so we did all that. Everyone had something bad to say about their bodies.

Nobody had anything nice to say. They all felt terrible about their bodies. And I was like, Hey, I remember finishing that day and I felt so bad. So sad. I felt so sad that everybody feels that way. And I really was like, I want to change this. I know it's not, it cannot be a flick of a switch, but it can be a process.

And we just need to start looking to make a change. I think as well, when we think we're hiding, but our kids, our kids pick up more than I think, and when you're feeling that way, they, that, you know, and you're maybe think you're not portraying it, you are. And I just, if we can learn to love our bodies and accept who we are, We can, we can prove that, put that, um, confidence and knowledge into your kids.

Because, you know, no matter what age your kids are, whether you've got a boy or a girl, it affects both. It can affect, uh, both sexes. You know, it just, what, no matter what ages it's, it's. It's crazy how early these, these things start. So my daughter is six and the other day she was, uh, she was in bed and she wanted to change her face.

So she was crying and she said she wanted to change her face because she has freckles on her nose. I think her freckles are beautiful and you know, she's got these little freckles on her nose and somebody at school said that they were ugly. And it made her ugly. And they said, so she wanted to change the freckles because she had more freckles than other people.

And, um, and it just broke my heart. Like I was like, yo, she's only just turned six, you know, like a couple of weeks ago. So she was, you know, she was saying that, that some kids were saying so. So I was, um, she had just had a birthday party. So I was, Finding photos of her friends and I was zooming in on their face.

I freckles too. And I was like, I have freckles. And I, I had asked my mom to get photos of me as a child so that I can show her that I had freckles and there's nothing wrong with them, you know, but I'm also not sure of that line of, I don't want to make too much of a deal about it, but just, you know, I just thought, Hey, this is, this is not cool.

And, uh, you know, my son is nearly 10 now, but when he was about seven, um, you know, I remember him, we were at Nippers. So we're at Nippers and like Nippers had finished and there was another little boy in front of us that was his friend and they were talking and they must've been, you know, they took off their, rash vest that they had on.

So they all had to wear like a pink rash vest. So he took the rash, they both took the rash vest off. And this, this other little boy, now my son is no way big, no way overweight, any of those things. Uh, and he was seven years old at the time. And this other little boy had, uh, had a visible six pack. So he had a visible six pack and my son didn't.

And I watched Cooper as he looked his tummy up and down. And then he looked, he looked the boy's tummy up and down, and then he looked at his tummy. And then he looked back at his tummy and then he had a, and then he looked back at his stomach and he was comparing and I was like, Oh my God, like you're only seven and then, and then he went to him, you've got a six pack, you know, and he was talking about this and later on that day, I spoke to him about it because I thought, Hey, I don't want him, I don't want him to start thinking this way about his body already at such a young age.

And, um, and we, I talked about how. We all have a six pack. It's all there. And I showed him what, you know, um, the anatomy of the body of what that looked like and what, you know, I said, we all have a visible six pack. And I talked to him about how important it is to have a layer of fat around it. And now that he's nearly 10, I've heard him relaying that same message to other people, which I love, you know, Last year, unfortunately my son had a lot of bullying going on and a lot of the things was they called him fat.

Uh, they also called me fat and I was saying to Cooper, like I spent my time saying to him, you know, again, unfortunately this is what's happened over time and people are going, you know, there's certain names they're going to, they're going to call you fat, ugly, you know, I said, they're going to stupid, you know, they're going to, and then it's going to get a point.

They've got no other ones, but that's what they're going to do. And, and they did in kind of. You know, I was like, Oh yeah, we're waiting for this one to happen. You know, like, Oh yeah, they've called you fat. They're going to call you ugly next. You know, and, and we, we, we talked about that and we've went through it, but I'm really lucky that my son's very open with me.

And we talk about things, but I know lots of kids don't, I know lots of kids hold things in. And we just, you, we don't realize, you know, or think about your childhood or anything like that. How much something one person can say, you can then take that on and believe that to be the truth about you. And it's not, you know, it's not.

So I just want you to think about that. And, uh, you know, like I said, somebody said that I had legs like tree trunks. So that was the truth that I then believed about them. Instead of seeing that my legs, uh, my legs are really strong and yes, they're muscly that always have been. And that's just how they go, but they're really, really strong.

And they, uh, you know, they can do anything and they can get me to places At the start of the year, I actually fell over and I was grateful that my legs were so strong because I fell, I fell, I just lost, I just, I don't know how I did it, but anyway, I fell into the pool and one, I was walking to the spa at our house and um, I had a coffee cup in my hand, I think I had my phone, and I was walking and I was looking at the spa, I wasn't really looking, but I somehow missed my footing, but I fell into the spa, I fell into the pool, and as I fell in, I grazed, I grazed, Cut all my leg from the top of my thigh to my knee as I did that, because one leg went in the pool, one leg stayed on the top of the pool.

And um, you know, but, but there I was glad I was flexible. I was glad I was able to hold that leg up there and then I was able to get my back, myself back up. But again, you know, I'm grateful that I have that strength that I can do those things. So I'm very grateful for the legs that I have. And I just, I just want you to think back, um, you know, like if, you know, if we ask.

Feeling this negative way about our bodies. Let's just take a pause, take a pause. And I want you to think, is it really helping? Is it helping, you know, what would you say if, if your children or your best friend or your grandchildren were talking about their bodies the same way that we're talking about our bodies now?

In our head because we are our own, we're our biggest critic and you know, we speak that little voice in our head. Lots of times speaks worse for ourselves than what we would let anyone else speak to us. And we don't deserve it. And, you know, we have that constant chatter in our head. And if that concentrata is negative, you know, we really want to, we really want to, uh, just to stop, pause, acknowledge those thoughts, but we can look at reframing them.

So we can look at reframing them and being, this doesn't have to be you. The other thing that I see that I, that I really want you to think about is that if you have children and if you have even not having children, but I see so many mums holding themselves back from doing the things that they wanted because they don't like their bodies or holding them back from activities with your kids.

My biggest thing with my kids is especially, I think it was last year, I read the statistic of when. They are 12 years old. They have spent, uh, you know, 80 percent of their, the 80 percent of their lifetime with you, you know, because after then they'll start to get older, you know, they'll start to get older and they'll want to start going off, you know, and all of that.

And then I think about, gosh, I see my, I don't, I might see my parents once a week. You know, or sometimes, you know, the other day we were all busy and it took, we didn't see each other for three weeks. So, you know, like, so that happens, especially if you have, you know, my husband's parents lived in the UK. So we, I just, we would speak, but we didn't, uh, we didn't see them that often.

So, you know, so just think about that. So we only have such a limited time with your kids before they start, you know, going off. And for me, the time with them is so special and I want to. I just want to lap it all up and I'm going to enjoy every moment with them while I can and why they want to be with me.

And I am not going to be sitting on the sidelines, not joining in because I don't like my body. Because the thing is, Your kids don't care about what your body looks like. They don't care that, uh, you know, if you have cellulite. They don't care if you have a tummy roll. They don't care any of those things.

They don't care if, you know, if you can't run as fast. They just care that you spend time with them. So let's stop stopping our lives because of something that someone else said, because of something that somebody else, some of their values, that they You know that they put onto you and then you took that as your truth.

Let's just stop because your kids care about the time that you spend with them and that's what they cherish. My kids don't give a shit about what I look like in a bikini. They do not care. They care that I'm jumping with them in the pool or the waves in the ocean. They care that I'm running with them on the beach.

Yeah. And that's the things that I value. I value doing those things with them. And, uh, you know, they just, um, stop stopping your life for how, you know, how we think somebody else, you know, because your kids, your kids won't remember that you, what size you were. They won't remember that you wore a size 10 or eight in clothes.

They don't care if you're whatever size your clothes are. They just care about the time that you spend with them. And the more that you hold yourself back, or we spend time hating ourselves because of how we look, you're just missing out on all the good memories with your children. And that's what I really, really, really want to get that message across.

So what I value and I want you to start reframing is our, your first step would be is just to think about how you actually feel about yourself. And as we spoke before about looking at maybe where those, where those values come from. And I trust me, whatever the first thing is that came to your mind.

That's generally what it is, okay? So think about the first thing and then, you know, might rewrite it down or look at expanding on that a little bit more. So thinking about how and whatever somebody had maybe said any of those things, just look at that and look at reframing from there, look at reframing and whoever said something about you or any of those things.

And if it doesn't come to you straight away, think about it a little bit more because it will. And generally our intuition tells us, so whatever the first thing that's coming to your head, that's generally what it is. And, uh, so we want to think about that. We want to look at where it's come from and think about that.

Then we can look at reframing these thoughts. So we can understand that that thought came from somebody else. That's not your opinion. We don't need to have that opinion about ourselves anymore. We can look at reframing. And how would you like to feel? How would you like to feel about your body? And what would feeling good about your body look like to you?

So what does that actually look like? So does it mean, um, How You know, what does it mean? Does it mean eating a certain way? Does it mean exercising in a certain way? Does it mean relaxing in a certain way? Wearing certain clothes? Whatever those, whatever those views are, whatever you're feeling good about your body looks like to you, I want you to think about what that would be and write that down.

So if you are, if you are, if you've had a thought and you can think about that, uh, and you've written it down and then I want you to look at it. Are you living that way? So are you currently living that way? So whatever the things you've written down, are you living that way? If, if you're not, then maybe we could look at starting to live that way.

Look at how you can implement some of them things in your life. It's not going to be perfect. It doesn't need to be perfect to start. We just need to start faking it until we make it. Start living that way as if you were already there, as if you were already feeling good and amazing about your body. And you know, we look at just, just start.

And the more that you start and the more we start faking it, we're going to start really believing it. Remember we took on those beliefs that somebody else said about us, about how we weren't good enough or how one shape of our body wasn't perfect or anything else that we've, those thoughts that you've had.

Well, we can start, we can do the same thing, but we can reframe it to be more positive. And again, you can do things like positive affirmations. We can do, uh, things like, um, Uh, putting things in front of your face, putting it on your phone, reminding yourself of it daily. And, uh, you know, think about every time you get to a traffic light, go, actually, my body is really strong.

And you will notice, you will be so surprised that just that act alone will, uh, will really change how you think. And, uh, And I just, I just really want to come back to the basic is what is most important to you. And for me, living a good quality life and, and enjoying my life and living, uh, enjoying it with my kids is what's most important to me.

And, um, you know, so we just come back to that. So if that thing is that, that's the most important thing to you. is hating your body or hating on your body or not doing things because we don't like how we look or not trying because we don't like it. Is that living your best life? Is that living how you want to be?

Because what I see happen all the time, what I see with lots of people is did you ever think about when you're a certain age and we remember. Um, you might remember seeing a photo of yourself and thinking, gosh, if only I look, if I only, I look like what I did then, if I only look now, what I did then we see a photo of us maybe five years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, so forth.

And, you know, remember thinking, Oh, when I. You know, when I look at myself, then I used to think I was fat, or I used to think I didn't look good then, you know, so we have those things and, you know, so let's just stop wasting time. Don't waste any more time having those thoughts, having those thoughts, because back then you didn't think you were fat.

You maybe, you maybe didn't think you were good enough or you didn't think you looked good enough or you would have liked to have changed something about your body and now you would actually like to look that way. So let's just stop it. Let's just stop those thoughts and just appreciate what you have and appreciate how you look now and be grateful for it.

And grateful that you can move because you know that you can move and that you can do things and you know, yes, maybe you might not be the size that you wish you were. for that. It's also what, what does that mean? What does that size mean? You know, uh, and it's, it's all valued differently. So my, my message today is to let's really reframe how we're thinking about our bodies.

Do it for your kids, do it for your family members, do it for yourself because you deserve more. We deserve to enjoy our lives and not spend your time hating your bodies. It gets you nowhere. It's, um, It's just, it is more seen to be cool to speak negatively about our bodies than what it is to speak positively.

Just look at what happens when you maybe go out with friends. Most people kind of, they make some subtle joke or something about, or they speak about not liking their bodies in some way. What about if we just don't have to join in with that conversation anymore and we can look at our only speaking positively about our bodies and only kind of hang around people that do the same thing.

You will see how much, uh, that uplifts, uplifts you when we don't have that negative chatter around us all the time. And the thing is, it's in you. It is in you to change how we think. Uh, it's not gonna, you know, it might not happen straight away, but you know, the more that we start to reframe how we think, uh, you know, you will really, really, really Notice that it happens.

It happens in no time. So my message today is coming from the bottom of my heart that I just, I just want you to love your body more, to appreciate what you have, appreciate what your body can do. And I want you to just think about What loving your body more would give you? What, what if your body was that, you know, and lots of times as well, some people have this ideal image of what their body should look like and nine out of 10 times they get there and they're still not happy.

So it's, it's, it's an inside job, no matter what size you are. So let's work on that. Let's work on appreciating and appreciating what your body can do, appreciating what you've got. And, uh, let's just try to turn off that negative chatter and think about it from a point of view where we can do it for our kids, our kids or the kids around us or the people around us.

Because even if you don't have any kids, uh, you know, or your kids are growing up, you can look at reframing how you think to help other people and we can help other people change So, uh, I would please, uh, love to hear. your, um, thoughts on this. If you have been able to, um, if you've had a aha moment, if you maybe think you could start looking at reframing how you think about your body.

Uh, and, uh, if you know that this would help anybody, please take the time to share it, uh, share it because I would really love to get the message out there more and we can really look at appreciating our bodies and loving it for what it can do. So I am going to love yous and leave yous today, and I will look forward to hearing from you and I will speak to you soon.

Bye.